I
enjoy robust dialogue and even arguments with my fellow United Methodists on
how we discern God’s way for us regarding human sexuality. What puzzles me,
although I understand, and don’t really mind so much, is when someone
interrogates me with a question like Have
you read Romans 1? Have you considered what Paul wrote to Timothy? What
possible reply might there be? No, what
is this Romans? Who was Timothy? I might concede that the stereotype has
some truth: conservatives have fixed their attention on Scripture more than
progressives. But many progressives are great students of the Bible, and just
because you can quote a verse doesn’t mean you understand the heart of the
Bible. I wouldn’t ask a conservative Have
you read what Jesus says about divorce in Mark 10?
I’m a Bible guy. Always have been, always
will be. I adore Scripture. I study it, in the original languages, constantly.
I read commentaries, cover to cover, just for fun. I have humbly and zealously
submitted my life, and my ministry, to the inspired Word of God. The question
isn’t Have I read Romans 1? Rather,
it’s How do we read the Scriptures we all
believe to be inspired? And not just the texts blatantly about
homosexuality. All the texts.
There are no un-interpreted texts. We strain
to see clearly the heart of God’s word given mind-boggling gaps of time (the
passing of 2,000 years), language (Hebrew and Greek don’t flow easily into
English), and culture. We all inevitably read into texts our own prejudices,
our own preferred outcomes. We Bible readers are broken, needing immense mercy –
to receive it from God and to extend it to others.
Some smart alecky people point to quirky
texts like not wearing blended fabrics to prove we don’t adhere to texts
literally. That’s not very helpful. What’s wiser is to consider how some texts
apply directly to us (like “When you have a dinner party, invite those who
can’t invite you in return,” Luke 14:12), and how others require some translation
into our world – like the Bible’s clear and constant demand that you should not
loan or borrow money at interest. I can respect someone who refuses then to
work for a bank or have a mortgage. But my hunch is that we cut to the heart
and see how in our day, as in Bible times, interest can grind the poor into
ever greater poverty. The very clear principle is to do all we can to keep the
poor from sliding into ever worsening poverty. Bankers and mortgage-holders
might even help.
So why then does the Bible not only allow
the One Church model but, for Bible lovers like me, even require it? One Church
embraces the humbling reality that Bible devotees understand what the Bible has
to say about intimacy differently. Conservatives have an insightful reading of
Scripture on homosexuality. I can’t and don’t even wish to prove that they are
wrong. The texts that deal with homosexuality are indeed clear; I have no doubt
the men who wrote Scripture didn’t favor same gender marriage. I do wonder
though, since we read a single Bible passage always in concert with the rest of
the Bible, if those texts have gotten isolated from other texts about the image
of God in all of us (Genesis 1:27), about no condemnation in Christ Jesus
(Romans 8:1), about welcoming instead of obliterating the identity of others
(Acts 8:38).
The question is: Are the clear
homosexuality texts like the clear Invite-others-to-dinner
texts? or like the Don’t-loan-at-interest
texts needing interpretation? I lean toward the latter. God can clear this up for us definitively once we
get to heaven. But we’ll be having that conversation in heaven. Salvation depends on the blood of Jesus shed on Calvary,
not on whether you or I think right on an ethical issue – thankfully. We fallen
sinners are wrong about so many things.
How can I find space, embrace and nobility
for LGBTQ people in Scripture? Ordination is easy: God can use anybody. In
Scripture, God seems determined to use the shocking, unlikely people, the despised
and lowly.
When
it comes to who can marry: I am obsessed with the increasing rarity which is
Christian marriage. Churches, mine included, happily marry hetero- sexuals who have
limited or zero understanding of what is a holy or theological marriage. The
Bible’s understanding of marriage is hardly Male + Female = Good. For Paul,
marriage is to put on display Christ’s love for the church, and what
sacrificial love can be (Ephesians 5:25). Marriage is a mystery (Ephesians
5:32) – musterion meaning not a
puzzle but something sacramental, pointing to the divine reality. Marriage is a
calling: “Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain”
(Psalm 127:1). It’s about being subject to one another (Ephesians 5:21).
Our United Methodist liturgy includes “You
have so consecrated the covenant of Christian marriage that in it is represented
the covenant between Christ and his church… Bear witness to the love of God in
this world… These rings… signify to us the union between Christ and his
church.” Marriage is training in holiness. We sing “When Love is found and hope
comes home, sing and be glad that two are one. When love has flowered in trust
and care, build both each day that love may dare to reach beyond home’s warmth
and light, to serve and strive for truth and right.” I do not see why same
gender couples cannot be and do these things. I have seen same gender couples
who very much embody this kind of joyful, faithful holiness. Yes, the Bible
loves male-female marriage and procreation. To my knowledge, so do all LGBTQ
Christians I know, and their friends and relatives.
We of course encourage all United
Methodist couples to strive for physical holiness. I tremble a little though,
every time I speak of holiness of the body and holiness in intimacy, as we
ordained people must. Telling another person how to behave tiptoes up to the
edge of works righteousness – and I shudder when I recall that Jesus was
harshly criticized for hanging around with the morally suspect – and that his
only harsh critique was reserved for the holy and pious people who knew what
everyone else should be doing and not doing. Holiness matters, and yet I am not
called or able to pass judgment on anybody – again, thankfully. Holiness doesn’t
save; mercy will.
I’m
not writing now about weddings out in society. I am focused only on United
Methodist Christians who hear the call to be married, and want their marriage
to be holy, a sacramental witness to God’s love in a broken world. We do not
see this sort of marriage very often – and the world is desperate for it.
Should we crush a would-be married couple who want to be Christ for the world,
while not minding the straights who lackadaisically marry and grace a pew now
and then? Might a holy same gender marriage awaken something beautiful in
straight marriages?
One
Church, I think, implies that we differ on how we bring Scripture to life in
relationships. Jesus, it’s fair to say, dreamed of holiness for all of us. And
yet for him, the demands of righteousness got eclipsed every time as he
embraced outsiders; to be like Jesus, to be Jesus, to be his Body now on earth,
we would be wise to err, when we err, on the side of hospitality rather than
righteousness and certainly than condemnation.
One Church also implies that we fall far
short of what God is asking of us if we are ready to be rid of others in
Christ’s Body. I have labored for many years to keep our Church together around
the Scripture essentials, God in Creation, God incarnate in Christ, Christ
crucified and risen, forgiveness and redemption in him. I am grieved to look
into the eyes of my brothers and sisters who wish to be rid of me. Scripture
assures me God wants us to be together. Jesus is still praying for our unity (John 17),
and does not wish for any of us flawed, confused, noble, tawdry, lovely and
broken members of his Body to leave or be cast aside. Friends, let us “bear
witness to the love of God in this world so that those to whom love is a
stranger will find in us generous friends.”